Well, I finally screwed my courage to the keyboard, and sent her a thank-you for some of the books she's written that have made a difference to me. For instance, I read from her translation of the Tao Te Ching at Mom's funeral.
Yesterday, I got a letter. She sent me a note that said 'Thank you for writing - your letter brightened up a dark rainy day. UKL'. Tucked in were six SIGNED dragon bookplates.