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That wasn't what I wanted to have happen

Yesterday afternoon, Bogar was in the back yard, running around and howling for a black cat that he had seen, totally out of control. I picked him up to put him on his yard run leash. He twisted away, reached up, bit me on the lip, and tore off about 30% of my left upper lip.

The ER triage nurse saw me and put in a call for a plastic surgeon; fortunately, I was at one of the one-out-of-five CA hospitals that has a plastic man on call. I have been repaired, and am looking at 1 or 2 reconstructive surgeries; we'll find out more on Friday. The surgeon said that the closure had gone much better than he had expected, so the outlook is good.

Bogar has been put down, because this was his second bite. and we couldn't take the chance of a third. Kate is utterly devastated, because she blames herself for bringing Bogar home. I don't see it that way; sometimes, when you try to do a good thing, it doesn't work out. We knew he was not right when we got him. Maybe if I had worked harder training him. No way to tell, and too late now.

I am in some discomfort now, and am eating soft foods until further notice. The plastic surgeon says he is a perfectionist, so the final result should be good. He's had a lot of experience repairing accident victims, cancer patients, etc. He also refuses to let his children have a dog.

I am posting this here for the family and Clan LJ friends. My webcomics friends are going to see it, but I ask them not to repost this or otherwise spread the word.

Mood: Mild pain, frustrated with self, worried for wife.



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Mar. 24th, 2008 03:46 pm (UTC)
Dearest friend... *HUG*

Ghods that sounds like so little to say, but my heart is breaking just a little for you and your beloved spouse at the moment. james_b (who is sitting here beside me as I type this) and I know how horribly hard and heart breaking, and unfortunately necessary this was.

Our hearts are with you my friend.
Mar. 24th, 2008 07:01 pm (UTC)
thank you, my friends.
Does this work for new smiler? :;
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Mar. 24th, 2008 07:01 pm (UTC)
thank you for kind thoughts
Mar. 24th, 2008 04:26 pm (UTC)
Arrgh, I am so sorry this has happened to you. I keep my fingers crossed that the plastic surgery works out well. I hope that Kate recovers soon from her self accusations. You both tried to do good, it just did not work out. I have been lucky as a child myself. I was stupid enough to stoop down over a sleeping German Shepard - a very kind creature - and stroke her ... she was startled, lurched up an bit me in the ridge of my nose and releasing it immediately again. I was lucky, I only needed a plaster and a tetanus shot, no marks left behind. The dog did not have to suffer from it, as the event was my fault entirely.

Mar. 24th, 2008 07:03 pm (UTC)
Bogar was a sweet, loving, playful dog, 99% of the time. I was stupid enough to confront him during that 1%. __it happens.

Glad *you* made off easier than that. Our dogsitter has two little girls, and we just could not, could not take the chance on one of them being next.
Mar. 24th, 2008 04:27 pm (UTC)
I feel sorry for you, Kate, and Bogar. Hope you get better soon.

So Kate is more devastated by guilt than by loss? I prefer your viewpoint that virtuous deeds are no less virtuous for yielding bad results.

Maybe in a couple months, you two will feel ready for another pet of some kind. My mom is already thinking of getting another cat, or possibly a rabbit. (Rabbits may bite, but probably not as badly as panicked beagles.)
Mar. 24th, 2008 07:06 pm (UTC)
If *I* had brought a pet that injured my spouse, I would have shaved my head, painted myself orange, and moved into the dumpster by now. I know how she felt, in other words.

We've accepted what happened, and what had to be done. It's just sad that we couldn't save him.

If we adopt again, we'll stick to big dogs that don't yap and nip. I have much better luck with them. I don't know if I'll be able to whistle for them though.
Mar. 24th, 2008 07:50 pm (UTC)
It is sad, for everyone, for you, for your wife, and for Bolger.

I'm glad to hear it hasn't turned you away from dogs entirely. I did dog rescue for a time, and I've seen a lot of dogs, sometimes it just didn't work - and it's brutally painful when it doesn't - but all the times it does work, it makes the effort worth it.

james_b and I are very much 'woof' dog people ourselves (as opposed to 'yap' dogs and 'bark' dogs), we're hoping to adopt a couple newfs, or saints, or great pyranees, or great danes... something like that. Some dog types are less prone to neuroses, but any one of them can come with problems. Yous roles your dice and yous takes your chances. But then... that's life.
Mar. 24th, 2008 07:12 pm (UTC)
darn that must not have been a good feeling at all, i hope the docs can help you out the best they can. i wish you good health and a fast recovery
Mar. 24th, 2008 11:56 pm (UTC)
I've had more pleasant Sundays. Thanks for caring; I know you have enough health issues of your own!
Mar. 24th, 2008 07:49 pm (UTC)
Sending Warm Squishy Get Better Feelings.

Lovies to both of you
Mar. 24th, 2008 11:59 pm (UTC)
Thanks for showing up, thanks for all the help you and Tim gave Kate and TJ. She was really upset when she left the hospital, I'm glad you came to help her.
Mar. 24th, 2008 08:14 pm (UTC)
I think that you will come out of this with a really interesting small scar.
Cate will be fine, it will just take time.
And I know you guys tried your best for the dog, it just wasn't meant to be as he had no training what-so-ever when he was a puppy, and was the most responsive to training.

So - take a little of your down time, and come up with a fabulous story for Faire!!!


Mar. 24th, 2008 11:57 pm (UTC)
Two words: "carnivorous parrot".

Thanks for being there for Kate and Teej.
Mar. 25th, 2008 12:35 am (UTC)
Perhaps a mad pirate's monkey bit you during a heavy sea battle? Maybe it was an undead monkey? The stories for faire are endless.

Big hugs and feel better soon.
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